Published on April 23, 2012
Change is inevitable; your ability to effectively deal with these changes, though, is the main factor of maturity. But along this journey, there are often choices you have to make that will prove these changes have actually occurred. I like to call this the “Stranger in My House” effect. That is first the knowing that something is different, and second the action that changes the current situation into something better.
The R&B singer Tamia belted out the infamous song about relationships, but it certainly doesn’t only pertain to love. On a larger scheme of things, it’s one of the most important understandings in a young person’s growth and career.
WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO STAY, WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO GO?
WHEN TO STAY
It’s all about timing. When it comes to the earliest days of your career, it should never be about money. Of course, we all have to make a living to survive. But if you’re doing ok, but could be doing better, it’s important to properly weigh your options. Maybe you’re not making as much as you could with another offer, but you’re gaining more experience and connections at your current place of employment.
Is there room for growth? Are you being provided feedback and noticing improvement in your work? Especially if this is related to a career, and not just a simple job to keep yourself afloat, this is the most important question. And many times, the best experience comes from the least pay… hence, internships. Some internships could even prove to be more beneficial than a paid opportunity. Never let money sway your choice when you’re still young and free to live and learn.
WHEN TO LEAVE
Knowing when it’s time to leave can be a challenge too, but it’s usually the quickest decision to make. Most people know it’s time to go when they find themselves unhappy every time they begin to work. Whether it’s the lack of growth in yourself or with the company; disrespect amongst peers or superiors on the ladder; or if the money simply isn’t worth the work ethic. And let’s be clear: this is different from the previous scenario. If you’re working to the best of your abilities and producing results beyond many of your co-workers and remain to be unacknowledged, that is a lack of respect rather than only money.
Money, of course, becomes a factor when you know the work you produce could make you much more elsewhere, and you would also be rewarded for it. When you choose to stay while making less than you know you could, it is because you are being respected, rewarded, and acknowledged; as well as having the understanding that there is room for growth within the business.
STRANGER IN MY HOUSE EFFECT
Tamia sings about a change in the waters for herself and her husband. Is she the one who changed, or is he? The answer isn’t actually important, but the action to follow is. Obviously, it’s time for a talk and a change. Speaking with your place of employment about your unhappiness is the first step, if you’re not completely sure. If the stay isn’t worth it, know it, claim it, and take the next steps to move to a better place. There is no point in living miserably day-in and day-out, even if it takes some time to find the right next move. Making it a priority to do what’s best for you and your career will be the key to your success in the long hall.
Is it I want more for me, and you remain the same? – Tamia